Chapter 16
Timeline For Using The MAP
Start With Your Weak Areas First
If you add up everything that you could be doing to improve yourself, it’s an impossible list of things to do. I’ve suggested that you: get in shape, make more money, play with the kids, be more dominant with her, flirt with her, flirt with other women, dress better, do more around the house, pass her fitness tests, fix up the house, and on and on and on. Unless you have a small army of clones, it’s going to be impossible for you to do it all at once.
Your greatest gains are going to come from working on your weak areas first. If you’re already making $100,000 a year, then you making $110,000 a year probably isn’t going to get the same positive result as someone going from $20,000 a year to $30,000 a year. If you’re already in great physical shape, an extra hour a day working out might make little difference to your wife. But for a badly out of shape guy an hour a day of working out could make a huge difference. If you’re a stay at home dad, more time playing with the kids won’t have the same benefit that it will have for those that work outside of the home.
The solution in a broad sense is to keep in shape, add Alpha if you’re too Beta and add Beta if you’re too Alpha.
The Goal
The goal for most husbands is to be in a relationship with a woman who is sexually interested in him and to have an enjoyable sex life with her. That is, after all, the reason most men marry in the first place. Ideally the woman who responds to your changes is your wife, but it’s always important to accept that she may not respond to you doing The MAP. Ultimately the willingness to move on and leave her if you have to is what makes The MAP powerful as a strategy.
What follows is a timeline that can be used to estimate how things should play out as you do The MAP. Keep in mind that you don’t have to play things through all the way to the end point where divorce happens. If you get halfway through and she starts responding to your changes and your sex life gets back on track, you’ve reached your goal and don’t have to force the issue further. All you have to do is keep doing what you’re doing and enjoy it! The general goal is to find the sweet spot of your Sex Rank being a little higher than hers (similar to Phase Three detailed below) and stay there until one of you dies of old age.
Phase One – When You Have a Lower Sex Rank than She Does
The first phase assumes that your Sex Rank is lower than your wife’s. Just be honest here, is she hotter than you? If she is, then you’re starting out here and working your way up from the bottom.
The first and most critical thing to do at this point is to start an exercise routine. Physical fitness primes the Alpha pump on so many levels that you simply can’t ignore physical fitness and body appearance. There’s nothing I can teach you that can bypass the need to be as physically attractive as you can be. If you’re badly out of shape, Phase One might take a very long time indeed and you should assume that you’re in Phase One until such time as you are within 5-10% of your ideal body weight. Work on building lean muscle mass rather than pure cardio and weight loss.
Also during Phase One you’re going to start educating yourself more and more on what’s coming in later phases and reading around those topics. If there are obvious mistakes that you’re making with your wife, you’re going to try and address them as best you can.
In Phase One, because you have a lower Sex Rank, she likely still has control of the relationship and control over the bedroom. You can of course ask for sex, but don’t be overly concerned or surprised if she is still turning you down. It’s also up to you to tell her, or not tell her, what you’re up to. Just be aware that telling her doesn’t impress her one bit, only action can do that. I think you have less chance of saying the wrong thing if you say nothing though. You’ll know you’re making progress when she asks you what you’re up to.
Phase Two – When You Have an Equal Sex Rank
At some point, you will improve yourself enough to where your Sex Rank is equal to your wife’s. Once you reach this point you should start to notice some changes in her behavior toward a more positive relationship. It’s also possible that she can act more threatened by the changes and attempt to sabotage your progress. An example of this would be...
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