Constantly Whacking Off To Porn Isn't An Alpha Male Skill....

Imagine for a moment you find yourself watching a highly attractive woman. Not only that but she is hot to trot. She's dressed in a way that leaves her intentions explicitly clear. She's throwing off indications of interest everywhere. Lots of make up, slutty heels and an obvious thong. There's no question she's simply lining up a winner to fuck her senseless.

When it happens, it happens quickly. Suddenly there's this guy and he's just on her and she's open mouthed in raw desire. He just starts stripping her clothes off and pulls her head down to his cock and she obediently sucks it in and bobs her head on it.

All this happens right in front of you.

Then he pulls her over to the couch and sits on it and she climbs on top of him. With him deep inside her, she leans forward and brushes her left breast across his hungry mouth and arches her back and moans. She sits straighter and starts bouncing in a steady rhythm on his cock. Then she flips her long hair and turns and looks back. She gazes straight into you eyes and holds it for a languishing moment but never stops bucking on him.

They mix up positions for a while before he pins her down hard on the couch and finishes inside her. He leaves her on the couch spread open, slick with readiness and hungry for a second helping. Excited beyond belief from your own hand and everything you have seen you know you will only last a few moments inside her, but you must finish somehow.

And as she fades to black your cum fires in pulsing arcs into empty air.

Now obviously what I've just described is a pretty vanilla porn scene (actually it was much longer and more graphic but Jennifer cut the good bits out sorry). I purposely wrote it to confuse the reader a little as to whether they were reading about a guy watching porn, or whether an actual scene was playing out right in front of him. The point is, on some deep level your own brain is fooled by porn into thinking that you are really seeing something happening right in front of you. That's why you get turned on.

It's the same thing as when I talk to my parents in New Zealand on Skype. It's like my parents are "really there" as far as my brain can tell. I have emotional reactions to seeing my parents in a video call. Logically I know that they are in fact 10,000 miles away, but there is something so much stronger about seeing them on video rather than simply hearing them on the phone.

So coming to the point... and there is one...

When you watch porn by yourself, on some subtle level you experience it as a failure to be selected for sex. Sex is happening "right in front of you" by a attractive available female, but she doesn't choose you to have sex with. She does it with her co-star. So on a subtle level you lose. He's the Alpha, you're the Beta pumping your own cock.

The Time Before Writing programmed back up plan for situations like this is pretty simple. You beat him with a pointed stick before he gets his sperm into her. However, this is on TV and you can't actually hit him. So he wins Alpha by default and you get the Beta status by default as well.

The next best Time Before Writing plan is also pretty simple. As soon as humanly possible after another male dumps his sperm inside your female, you have sex with her hard and fast yourself. The human penis actually works like a suction device when it moves in and out of a vagina and will in fact suck semen out of the vagina. The sooner you do it the better chances you have of your sperm reaching her eggs. Except she's not really there, so again you can't make a play for the female.

Now bear in mind that I do get on a logical rational level that we know we're just watching a movie. However on a non rational level our body responds as it's been programmed to respond to an attractive available female. And on that non rational level, it's like you get slapped down hard as a weak Beta Male.

Watching some porn is fine. It's like having a drink once in a while. No biggie, relax, enjoy it. Porn like alcohol is only a problem, when it becomes a problem. But if you get into a constant cycle of porn as one of your main sexual outlets, I think that can start to add up in influencing your mindset more heavily into a far less Alpha and increasingly Beta (or even Omega) Male mindset and social expectation. After watching someone else bang the girl a few hundred times, what does that do to your ability to frame things effectively?

Porn can also work as the crutch propping up your end of a sexless or low sex marriage. At some point if you're going to move on and fix the problem between you and your wife, you're going to have to kick the crutch out from under you and learn to stand on your own two feet again. If you're always whacking off to porn, you'll never have the motivation to rock her world, nor the ability anyway if you're drained and limp.

Not to mention the legion of women that complain their husband won't have sex with them because he's hooked on porn and always scurrying off to the den at 1am for Barely Legal Asian Anal Cum Dumpsters In The Hood Booty VII. (Scene three rocks!)

I'm not saying never watch it. I'm not saying that it is immoral, though I understand that some readers will think that it is. For some low sex desire people porn is a great aid at triggering increased arousal and general sexual interest even. I'm just asking how is it working out for you? Is it increasing your sexiness and attractiveness, or is it subtly sapping it?

Further Reading from Psychology Today  Was The Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating Too Much?   Hat Tip EntropyPUA

Also I think watching porn with a partner is different than watching alone. You do get a little more worked up, but you also get to work it out on someone as well. And lets face it, with a partner is generally all round better than masturbation anyway.

Like I said, I'm not telling you what to do on this one. I'm just asking the question, how is it working for you?